Many fathers and mothers believe that a child must feel shame and guilt in order to stop negative behavior. They assume that humiliation and harsh treatment are the ideal solution. Then they are surprised when their child's misbehavior only increases. Humiliation, blame, shouting, and anything that makes a child hate himself will lower his self-esteem. When self-esteem declines, a person becomes tense, his awareness weakens, and his behavior becomes even worse as a result. For our child's behavior to improve, there are two essential principles: First: He must feel accepted even when he misbehaves. The wrong behavior is unacceptable, but he remains a good person even when he makes a mistake. All people make mistakes and learn from them. Separate the person from the behavior, and engage him in discussion so he arrives at the conclusion that the behavior is wrong through questions such as: Is this behavior wrong? Why? Second: We must engage them in dialogue, listen to them, and discuss with them in a spirit of confidence and without accusation, so they can think of solutions to their behavioral problems themselves. For example: Is this behavior wrong? Why? How can you stop this behavior or change it? What do you intend to do? These dialogue questions must be grounded in the belief that he is a good person and that this is an opportunity for learning, not a chance for blame or for making him feel like he is a bad person. When we make our children feel accepted, they will cooperate with us. When we listen to them, they will listen to us. And when we ask them to work through their behavioral problems themselves, they will improve. Make the mistake an opportunity for learning, growth, the development of life skills, and the strengthening of problem-solving ability, instead of turning the mistake into a cause for self-hatred, which leads to more misbehavior, kills creativity, and weakens concentration and the capacity for clear thinking. From here begins the effectiveness of the individual and the effectiveness of society in achieving civilizational progress. With your growth, this generation rises.